How to make your Husband happy ?

[RED ROSE]

The following article is a summary of the book "How to Make Your Husband Happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.


1. Beautiful Reception:hooray:

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,

Begin with a good greeting. :)

Meet him with a cheerful face :grin:

Beautify and perfume yourself

Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested

Receive him with loving and yearning sentences

Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

2. Beautify and Soften the Voice

For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)

3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

Take good care of your body and fitness.

Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.

Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.

Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape

Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoos

Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes

Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.

4. Intercourse

Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.

Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.

Exchange loving phrases with your husband.

Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.

Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.

5. Satisfaction With What Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) Has Allotted

You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job

You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) for all that was given to you.

You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.

6. Indifference to Worldly Things

You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.

You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.

Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the Hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Al-Jannah).

Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

7. Appreciation

By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.

The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways

The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?"

8. Devotion and Loyalty

In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy

Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

9. Compliance to Him

In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram)

In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.

10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:

If you were mistaken, then apologize

If he was mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing or
Yield you right or
Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keep silent until his anger goes
Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him

Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.
1) You should tell me what happened!
2) I must know what made you so angry!
3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!

11. Guardianship While He is Absent

Protect yourself from any prohibited relations

Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.

Take care of the house and children.

Take care of his money and properties

Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijaab

Refuse people whom he does not like to come over

Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place

Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence

12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends

You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.

You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.

You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife

Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.

Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home

Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc...

13. Admirable Jealousy

Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…

You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

14. Patience and Emotional Support

Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.

When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.

When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.

Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.

When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.

15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad

Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.

Encourage him to pray at night.

Listen and reciting the Qur'aan individually and with your husband.

Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.

Remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa, much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.

Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.

Learn Islamic rules (ahkaam) and good manners ('adab) for women.

Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.

Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah

Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah, subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa.

16. Good Housekeeping

Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged

Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom

Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods

Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing

Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.

17. Preservation of Finances and the Family

Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.

Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.

Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.



Finally, please make Du'a for the writer; Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed for the translator brother Abu Talhah, and for the reviewer, brother Adam Qurashi. Remember this is not a perfect translation so forgive us our faults and correct our errors. Muslim Students' Association University of Alberta Edmonton, Canada February, 1999

Taken from : Al-Haramain.org Newsletter

[iraqiguy]

Also to please your husband: have the patience to read really long posts on aussiemuslims...

(jokes)

[Amin]

Sounds good.

[iraqiguy]

Two Questions:

1- Why is the way for a woman to please a man, written by a man, and not by a woman ?

2- Why is there no writings on how the man can please wife ?

Ofcourse with all due respect to Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed. and apperication to him and the translators, May Allah reward you all khairan for your efforts.

[RED ROSE]

Also to please your husband: have the patience to read really long posts on aussiemuslims...

(jokes)






LOL
Good one sis




Next time I’ll try n find how a man makes his wife happy
Coz you know it’s not fair on the other side
You know sister we want equality
dont you????

[RED ROSE]

Two Questions:

1- Why is the way for a woman to please a man, written by a man, and not by a woman ?

2- Why is there no writings on how the man can please wife ?

Ofcourse with all due respect to Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed. and apperication to him and the translators, May Allah reward you all khairan for your efforts.





very goooooooood two questions???
Interesting too

[iraqiguy]

yes I'll bet the sisters want equality, only.. I'm not a sister

Iraqiguy ! hello ! ! Good morning !

lol. Ill try and find something as well and post it up here inshallah

Jazakum Allahu khairan again

[RED ROSE]

oh i am sorry iraqiguy ##
exuse me

[Lena]

http://www.aussiemuslims.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4169

[Rubaiyat]

Two Questions:

1- Why is the way for a woman to please a man, written by a man, and not by a woman ?

It is posted by one of the sisters here. So she obviously agrees :D


2- Why is there no writings on how the man can please wife ?

SSSSHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

:)

[RED ROSE]

It is posted by one of the sisters here. So she obviously agrees :D



SSSSHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

:)





aaa excuse me no actually I don’t exactly agree because
As I said I want equality really I do want equality>>>>>>>>>

So I want my husband to treat me as he would be liked treated
And I don’t want him to subjugate me coz he doesn’t won me
where is woman's rights?? ha lol
>>>Fair enough >>.

[Najah]

I've seen that article like a billion times. This is a funny one though -

16. Good Housekeeping

Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged :haha:

Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom :rofl: :rofl:

Perfect food (preparation) :haha: and prepare healthy foods

Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing :haha:

[(¯`•._.•[OmAyA]•._.•´¯)]

wow...i must be an old fashioned house wife den cause i do all dat. i enjoy it too. i never would have thought that i'd be like dat though cause wen i wasnt married i never did anything, couldnt cook, refused to clean.
i think its fun to change house decorations, i my self get bored of it. i think its important to cook healthy...it's d wellbeing of your family that your looking after. i dunno maybe i am old fashioned...ders gotta be other ppl here who do things the "old fashioned way" such as cooking and cleaning.

[Amin]

Be careful Omaya you might be looked at as a stranger..

May Allah reward you with goodness.

[SuBMiSSioN]

•._.•´¯);178941']ders gotta be other ppl here who do things the "old fashioned way" such as cooking and cleaning.

Cook? Clean? Look after the kids? Get with the times girl! Throw the kids in childcare, get take-away, and clean on the weekend, whilst you work during the weekdays trying to save for that $10000 LV bag that you've always wanted :rolleyes:

[Najah]

•._.•´¯);178941']wow...i must be an old fashioned house wife den cause i do all dat. i enjoy it too. i never would have thought that i'd be like dat though cause wen i wasnt married i never did anything, couldnt cook, refused to clean.
i think its fun to change house decorations, i my self get bored of it. i think its important to cook healthy...it's d wellbeing of your family that your looking after. i dunno maybe i am old fashioned...ders gotta be other ppl here who do things the "old fashioned way" such as cooking and cleaning.

I'm laughing at the way its worded, 'perfect food preparation', so if u burn something or it doesnt turn out right then your a bad wife, oh and the sewing thing, unless your a stay at home mum/wife theres no time!

[Fatoum 7ees Beese]

•._.•´¯);178941']wow...i must be an old fashioned house wife den cause i do all dat. i enjoy it too. i never would have thought that i'd be like dat though cause wen i wasnt married i never did anything, couldnt cook, refused to clean.
i think its fun to change house decorations, i my self get bored of it. i think its important to cook healthy...it's d wellbeing of your family that your looking after. i dunno maybe i am old fashioned...ders gotta be other ppl here who do things the "old fashioned way" such as cooking and cleaning.

MashAllah thats very good! Well now we know ur husband is living the life of luxury :thumbsup: Akid ur livin it too! Alhamdulilah.
Although yes i must admit u were nuthin like this in high school days :grin:
Omaya and cooking.....ya riteeeee!!!! :p

InshaAllah atamana my life to be like that with my husband. JazakAllahu khairan ukhti.

[CVM`]

How To Make Your Husband Happy...

Treat him as you would like to be treated..

Say the sweet things you want to hear..

Smile.. he will appreciate it..

Make him know he is special to you..

Love him how you want to be loved..

How To Make Your Wife Happy..


ALL THE ABOVE...

[Fatoum 7ees Beese]

Oh btw a gr8 way to be with ur husband is to always say beautiful, cute, sweet, things to him. Like cvm said make him feel so special, he will react like ur lil baby but he will only be this way in front of u :grin:
Then of course he'll be all tough and manly in front of the brothers.
How cute!!

[forbidden_fruit]

For the cooking/cleaning/looking after the kids job, I'm sure many of us get plenty of training at home. :p

[Houda*]

Yeah and lose bout 5kg a week! That includes running after little cheeky kids!

[Umm Jannah]

8. Devotion and Loyalty

In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy

Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad

Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.

Encourage him to pray at night.

Listen and reciting the Qur'aan individually and with your husband.

Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.

Remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa, much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.

Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.

Learn Islamic rules (ahkaam) and good manners ('adab) for women.

Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.

Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah

Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah, subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa.



Good point!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :mad: for number 8!!

Through my work, I have witnessed Muslim wives who asked for divorce and left their husband when they got injured at work and stopped working.

Subhana allaah, if I was a man, and my wife done the same :shake: how sorry I would be for spending my time providing for her, and injuring myself so she lives in better state.

These Men suffer mantal illnesses and loneliness, "some" were given their kids to take care of, so they can work outside or live back with parents. :(

Fear Allaah, these children are coping disorders now seen fathers cant provide support to the house and family and break ups.

I have to add this important point, most of these men spoke little English and faced racism and failure to be illegible for insurance. So, it's a shame to expect a lot...

May Allaah swt Guide us all..

As for the other point, in sha allah we all support each other and to not make each other lazier to do good for the sake of allah.

If he/she strives for Allaah sake, make sure to support! and not be a barrier.

[aussiemu]

Ah.. these topics always make me laugh. I can't help it. It has some good advice overall though.

BTW there is some articles around for brothers if they are interested in reading them.

BTW - it is known that the majority of women who work also do a fulltime load at home as well in terms of cooking/cleaning. Just so people don't think that women who work don't actually cook or clean.

Just realise that in the end each marriage is different and some things will matter more than others to people. For some people having a spotless house and 3 course meals are not that important and for others they are. For some people their wife knowing how to sew is important and for others it's not. And so on.. The best thing to do in a marriage is to learn to compromise and to take each others habits/likes/dislikes into consideration and work out a happy medium for your family.

wassalamu alaikum

[Ahmad]

Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom
That is actually really annoying, because it's the guy that has to do all the re-arranging. Or once everything is "re-arranged" he doesn't know where half his stuff is anymore! Although I guess that does "avoid boredom" as he has to look for everything again.

[SuBMiSSioN]

That is actually really annoying, because it's the guy that has to do all the re-arranging. Or once everything is "re-arranged" he doesn't know where half his stuff is anymore! Although I guess that does "avoid boredom" as he has to look for everything again.
Well you can't expect the woman to do the re-arranging :brow: :smack:And if the guy does the re-arranging, then he knows where everything is, since he put it there himself! :thumbsup:

[one.muslim]

Re-arranging the house reminds me of how the Brits et al "re-arranged" the Muslim lands. Certainly not boring but designed to provoke sectarian violence.

Sisters take note.

[Shadower]

How to make your Husband happy ?

Good food.

[RED ROSE]

That is actually really annoying, because it's the guy that has to do all the re-arranging. Or once everything is "re-arranged" he doesn't know where half his stuff is anymore! Although I guess that does "avoid boredom" as he has to look for everything again.





yes you are right it is a little bit annoying.

[Sammi]

I cook n clean, not because I like it but coz I have to! Who else will do it if I don't? lol
How I wish I had one of them hubbys whose like "sit down sweetie, you cooked, I'll do the dishes!".....Alhamdullilah for what I have:grin: But I wouldn't mind a rest once in a while!
I agree there should be a write up on how bros can please their wives, I can start one if you want ;)

1. Help her out now n then around the house.
2. Give her beautiful reception when you're coming home from work {not a grunted asalamu alaikum}

[Najah]

[QUOTE=Sammi;179024]
How I wish I had one of them hubbys whose like "sit down sweetie, you cooked, I'll do the dishes!".....Alhamdullilah for what I have:grin: But I wouldn't mind a rest once in a while!
QUOTE]

They do exist. On more than 1 occaison I've come home from work thinking I have stepped into the wrong house and found it spotless, without asking.....so those husbands do exist :D

[Sammi]

Not where my husbands from lol {no offense fattys houda n omaya}.

[Najah]

Good food.

No brother...just food period.

[(¯`•._.•[OmAyA]•._.•´¯)]

LOL @ Samantha. Watch it buddy. ur son is half lebo.

[Najah]

•._.•´¯);179033']LOL @ Samantha. Watch it buddy. ur son is half lebo.

which means she has half hope for her son to help his future wife in housework - the initiative will come from the australian side lol

[(¯`•._.•[OmAyA]•._.•´¯)]

lol..i very very much doubt it. The lebanese have a very strong impact. THIS IS MOHAMMED WHERE TALKING BOUT!! hehe sorry Sam, but you know you agree.

[Najah]

it could be a worldwide first sis, our generation is different to that of our parents, anything is possible

[RED ROSE]

Yeah and lose bout 5kg a week! That includes running after little cheeky kids!



LOL

[RED ROSE]

thanx all of you for ur sweet replay







best wishes
ur sis RED ROSE

[Shadower]

Najah you are probably right. :)

[LovinMyDeen]

How could we ever forget this thread: http://www.aussiemuslims.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13971

[Sammi]

Ok just so we get something clear...I don't want him to be a pansy bowing down to his wife. BUT in some circumstances like when she comes home from hospital after having a baby I don't think it'd hurt a man to pull his weight!! Am I right?
As long as I teach my son basics. I promise you I'm still teaching my hubby the smallest things. As long as my son knows to put his dirty dishes in the sink, dirty clothes in the washing basket, hang up towels don't chuck em ON THE BED!!!! And please god forbid my son smokes, don't ash in cups and plates. OmG YUK!!!
Omaya I can see issues coming up as Zakky gets older, Moe will want to make a true man out of him lol but insha'allah I can get some input to do the minimal housetraining.

[chickenrice]

On more than 1 occaison I've come home from work thinking I have stepped into the wrong house and found it spotless, without asking.....so those husbands do exist :D
That's soooo sweet. My hubby is messy - like Sammi I have to remind him about towels on the bed (brothers, WHAT is up with that???) - and I'm neat to the point of anal retentiveness. Of course there are similarities between us as well as differences. But I think the key here is to remember the good things about people. (Following is kinda a tribute to my man - rather soppy, so skip if it bores you!) Like, I forget my hubby's very minor misdemeanours, and instead remember the way he talks to me and treats me (kindly, which in turn makes me avoid nagging or yelling at him). I think of how he always makes the effort to keep fit by going to the gym and taking care of his appearance (dear God, a straight man with personal grooming skills who likes shopping - thank you Allah) and this in turn makes me want to maintain my figure and go to the beautician and hairdresser each week. I recall how, if he comes home later than me he'll greet me with a kiss and tell me how much he misses me (and I do the same when I come home later than him...like tonight...damn, miss him already). And I remember how he buys me stuff - that's, like, totally weird, I've gone my whole adult life being self sufficient (I feel somehow wrong accepting things from him...but they're very nice things lol).


BTW - it is known that the majority of women who work also do a fulltime load at home as well in terms of cooking/cleaning. Just so people don't think that women who work don't actually cook or clean.
Thank you sis for the reminder - so true! Like a lot of women, I work at work AND at home ;)

[Abu Layla]

Did I accidentally get access to the sisters section or what?

[chickenrice]

Did I accidentally get access to the sisters section or what?
Is this what you assume the sisters' section to be like? More to the point - you actually spend time thinking about it? Hey, that's...um...sad. :cool:

[Ahmad]

And please god forbid my son smokes, don't ash in cups and plates. OmG YUK!!!
If you're going to let your son smoke, let alone in your home, then make him ash in his mouth.

[Rubaiyat]

I have to remind him about towels on the bed (brothers, WHAT is up with that???)

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. Bed, chair, sofa - all acceptable.

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. Bed, chair, sofa - all acceptable.

That proves beyond doubt you're a guy.

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

Do guys even stop to THINK as to why a towel thrown carelessly on furniture is not acceptable?

How is it meant to dry when it's all scrunched up like that? Even when you put it on the towel rack you're meant to spread it out, in order for it to dry http://kolobok.wrg.ru/smiles/rpg/girl_werewolf.gif

[Rubaiyat]

Do guys even stop to THINK as to why a towel thrown carelessly on furniture is not acceptable?
How is it meant to dry when it's all scrunched up like that?

It's on a surface (bed/chair/sofa) and got all day to dry up. Seriously, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! A little bit of scrunched up bits really doesn't effect much, it still dries up pretty well.

[Sammi]

LoL @ men and towels.
Ahmed good idea....INShallah his not stupid enough to smoke.

[SuBMiSSioN]

It's on a surface (bed/chair/sofa) and got all day to dry up. Seriously, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! A little bit of scrunched up bits really doesn't effect much, it still dries up pretty well.

So you expect to leave it there all day and night? :brow: :eek: Sheesh.. even my little sister ain't that messy.

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

Maybe guys just throw that towel around in order to cover up dirty clothes.

An ulterior motive.

[Rubaiyat]

So you expect to leave it there all day and night?

It's doesn't stay in the same place 24/7. Moves from furrniture to furniture :)

When it's bed time, it moves to the chair.
When it's study time, it moves to the sofa.
When it's TV time, it moves to the bed.
Pretty simple.

[*TaZzA*]

lol now thats funni

[Sammi]

LoL :smack: on behalf of all the women who have brothers at home with "towel issues"....

[your sister]

Also to please your husband: have the patience to read really long posts on aussiemuslims...

(jokes)

YEH Well may ALLAH reward us for even making the effort to learn about how to please them ALLAHUMMA AMEEN

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

When it's bed time, it moves to the chair.
When it's study time, it moves to the sofa.
When it's TV time, it moves to the bed.
Pretty simple.

Why am i not surprised it doesn't make it to the laundry basket :confused:

[your sister]

•._.•´¯);178941']wow...i must be an old fashioned house wife den cause i do all dat. i enjoy it too. i never would have thought that i'd be like dat though cause wen i wasnt married i never did anything, couldnt cook, refused to clean.
i think its fun to change house decorations, i my self get bored of it. i think its important to cook healthy...it's d wellbeing of your family that your looking after. i dunno maybe i am old fashioned...ders gotta be other ppl here who do things the "old fashioned way" such as cooking and cleaning.

oh man i try h ey , lets leave it at that .......there are other factors though man like having kids sometimes im on my feet all day with the babies both under 2 and i dont have enough time to do half the things on the list so i wokr with the list i take the things fromt hat list that i can do or my hubby likes me to do. decorating the house :rolleyes: lol yeh my kids take care of that(toys everywhere) have to watch ur step in this house mate u might end up with some serious foot injuries.

[Rubaiyat]

Why am i not surprised it doesn't make it to the laundry basket :confused:

Forgot to mention: There is a "smell test" before every furniture transit. It moves to the laundry basket the moment it fails the test.

Now seriously, I don't have a "smell test" (honestly I don't), it just goes to the basket after 3-4 days.

We may be messy with stuffs lying around (study table for example), but we keep ourselves clean.

[SuBMiSSioN]

*walks away from this conversation shaking her head*

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

*walks away from this conversation shaking her head*

As you're walking, pick up that towel someone left on the couch and continue walking to the laundry basket :shake:

[your sister]

i cant talk im probly as messy as ur average guy NOT DIRTY just messy hehehe i think there are many guys out there probly much more organised than I :D not fair to go pin pointing at the dudes, and i know many other sisters like myself who are just as messy if not more:smack:

[Amin]

Why would someone choose to be messy? Being organised allows you to be much lazier. If everything has a place, things are easier to find.. for example with the towels, if it has a defined resting place you wont have to go to the trouble of constantly moving it around.

Want to be lazy? Get organised :thumbsup:

[Peace]

But to be organised in the first place means that you can't be lazy to begin with.

[Amin]

But to be organised in the first place means that you can't be lazy to begin with.

Being lazy includes doing everything thats required to be lazy in the long term.

[your sister]

been messy is one thing and been lazy is another, i get messy cause im on my feet all day juggling 2 babies under 2 years, when i was single i wasnt as messy or if i did i would quickly find the time to tidy up, and i just thought id be honest cause i know most of sisters im friends with are not perfect when it comes to cleaning up and tidying up and can relate to what im saying, i just think its not all about men leaving towels around, my husband doesnt care at all bout house been messy he just wants food a friendly tone of voice not too much nagging and his happy

[*saRah*]

ekh, this is to romantic for me lol

abt the cleaning house part. give me the dishes and il be happy. actually give me a mud house, a subya, a straw mat, thick blankets for beds, a white rose, those couches that are on the floor, those thick ones, no fancy smanshy, another white rose, and a loving devout muslim family with alot of kids and i'll be soooooo happy. i dont like big houses. :( no love in in big houses, and everyone scatters everywhere. A small house with like a nice living room made out of mud bricks and a subya in the middle will be my dream house. cos all the family will sit in that room and oh, and we'll have lessons abt religion. ok im gonna cry right now. wallahi if i get anything like that i think i will b the happiest girl in the world :( anyways its all rizk. alhamdullilah

[Bobali]

*saRah* ill swap u my flat for ur house?

[*saRah*]

lol no way!!! if i ever get that i wont sawp it for anything. priceless. :D subhanallah i really hope i get something like that. its so ironic cos right now im living in this huge house :( to be hounest i dont like it. its cold and the family is neva together, like with my "dream" house, we will all sit in one room and like share stories or ill tell my kids stories. LOLL i sound silly, sorry im speaking as though i have kids and a house like the one i described. but if i did no one would wipe this smile off :D alhamdullilah 4 everything, ppl dont even have home.

[Bobali]

its so ironic cos right now im living in this huge house to be hounest i dont like it. its cold and the family is neva together

My flat is small and cosy, my flat for ur house, which u dont like.

win win situation here *saRah*


How to make your Husband happy ?
MOE THE LAWN

[*saRah*]

My flat is small and cosy, my flat for ur house, which u dont like.

win win situation here *saRah*



oooooo the house im living in right now? lol meh take it, actually its not mine lol. if it was, take it and dont return it, but i want a mud house with the decription above. loll i sound like a cavewomen.

[chickenrice]

subhanallah the towel thing was an example. what's wrong with you all?

[Bobali]

oooooo the house im living in right now? lol meh take it, actually its not mine lol. if it was, take it and dont return it, but i want a mud house with the decription above. loll i sound like a cavewomen. i wish more sisters were just as humble as u :)

[Najah]

ekh, this is to romantic for me lol

abt the cleaning house part. give me the dishes and il be happy. actually give me a mud house, a subya, a straw mat, thick blankets for beds, a white rose, those couches that are on the floor, those thick ones, no fancy smanshy, another white rose, and a loving devout muslim family with alot of kids and i'll be soooooo happy. i dont like big houses. :( no love in in big houses, and everyone scatters everywhere. A small house with like a nice living room made out of mud bricks and a subya in the middle will be my dream house. cos all the family will sit in that room and oh, and we'll have lessons abt religion. ok im gonna cry right now. wallahi if i get anything like that i think i will b the happiest girl in the world :( anyways its all rizk. alhamdullilah

will you be able to get net connection in a mud house or even wireless :p

[Najah]

Sis chickenrice - my husband knows a few of the brothers on this forum, i have to say nice things lol (they are true anyways Alhumdulilah)

On another note, whether men have grown up spoilt by their mothers in terms of everything being done for them at home or not, we all tend to forget how the prophet helped his wives in the house and that no one is better than him. Some men need constant reminding of that, some dont. I hope the single brothers who get married one day InshaAllah will remember that. I reckon that those brothers who live as students for a few years and have to do everything else would probably be the best in terms of helping their wives out, because they know what it is like to have to do everything on their own. Its all give and take.

[Najah]

and our mothers, may Allah give them all the highest level of paradise, do what they do for us out of love, compassion and mercy, they aren't our slaves, it isn't fard on them to wash our clothes, cook our meals, make our beds etc.

[Najah]

i wish more sisters were just as humble as u :)

Bobali, as long as the husband is of good ahklaaq & deen then however you live - whether it is in rental in a 2 bedroom home for the rest of your life will be enough, those after money and material things, status in front of their peers and family, a flat won't be enough for them as they are after the dunya and not ahkhira, so rest assured there are sisters like that out there. My husband and I live in rental and are quite happy that way Alhumdulilah and if we have to live in rental homes for the rest of life, who cares? As long as it is all halal nothing else matters, we have a roof over our heads.

[ibnsomeone]

Well if people are laughing at these points no wonder the ummah has gotten into such a mess.

It all starts at the home.

[your sister]

the sunnah is not a joke and i do take my home , my kids and my husband very seriously cause its all gona add up on the day of judgment from the little big things we do as sisters for our families, its not easy work but do it with the right intention and u will be greatly rewarded and i reckon if we did try follow these points as apose to have a laugh at them WE (the wives) would end up more happy than the husbands in this life and the akhira inshALLAH....thank u sister for posting them up I HAVE NOT read them before :)jazaki ALLAH kher

[RED ROSE]

thank you all my brothers and sisters

[chickenrice]

Have I missed something? Who's laughing at the original post?

[Abu Dharr]

The threads title kind of adds onto the myth of sexism commonly associated with Muslims.

[Sammi]

Well I am not laughing at the original post. It has some good points.
We are laughing at how men can please women and majority of us sisters would be pleased if men hung up their towels lol.
Abu Dharr, very true bro! But as I said before the article does have some valid points and some that aren't all that realistic for every day.

[*saRah*]

i wish more sisters were just as humble as u :)

jazakuallahu khair akhi, thats very nice of u :) but trust me im like a walking stressball :o i wish i was very humble, in everything, my walk, talk..that would be so beautiful. oh well

Najah, ur post was to funny LOL wallah i really did laugh out loud!!!

[Ibn Farooq]

Salaam Alaikum
What I find really interesting is that for the post "How to please your wife" has 3 replies I think and "How to please your husband" its already 5 pages :)....
I was an international student ,I must say that I have a far better understanding of how tough house work is than before. At home I had everything done for me which I found was extremely bad, when I came here and had to do everything myself. I am no where as organised as I should be (towels still end up on furniture ;)) but from my experience, the more you try and follow Islam, the more organised you become. This is from personal experience, because you realise the importance of cleanliness and how the Prophet (SAW) loved cleanliness. Also as far dealing with wives is concerned, although I'm not married as yet, I am a firm believer of "the best among you is the one who treats his wife the best" and inshallah will try my best to make my wife the happiest woman, for I know Allah is pleased with that.

[case]

Actually I saw a post on a white supremist blog talking about this very thread on aussiemuslims. It went along the lines of "think islam is a religion of peace?" and then mentioned this thread "proving" that islam is all about women worshipping their husbands.

[Rubaiyat]

I'm sure they conveniently ignored the other thread about husband's responsibility.

[Shadower]

Case would that be the super dooper storm trooper website? :)

I am sorry if I don't take anything seriously that comes out of the mouth of a racist.

We could also be making comments here: http://www.aussiemuslims.com/forums/showthread.php?t=15822

[your sister]

Actually I saw a post on a white supremist blog talking about this very thread on aussiemuslims. It went along the lines of "think islam is a religion of peace?" and then mentioned this thread "proving" that islam is all about women worshipping their husbands.

they can plot and plan as much as they want people are still discovering the truth about islam
:shahaada:

[chickenrice]

I'm sure they conveniently ignored the other thread about husband's responsibility.
LOL. Remember that white supremacists aren't the smartest people in society. If they read that thread, it would refute their simplistic notions about Islam and cause their heads to explode.

[(¯`•._.•[OmAyA]•._.•´¯)]

Bobali, as long as the husband is of good ahklaaq & deen then however you live - whether it is in rental in a 2 bedroom home for the rest of your life will be enough, those after money and material things, status in front of their peers and family, a flat won't be enough for them as they are after the dunya and not ahkhira, so rest assured there are sisters like that out there. My husband and I live in rental and are quite happy that way Alhumdulilah and if we have to live in rental homes for the rest of life, who cares? As long as it is all halal nothing else matters, we have a roof over our heads.

I agree with everything you just said sister.
may Allah be pleased with you.

[case]

Case would that be the super dooper storm trooper website? :)

I am sorry if I don't take anything seriously that comes out of the mouth of a racist.

We could also be making comments here: http://www.aussiemuslims.com/forums/showthread.php?t=15822


no, it was some little blog by some nutcase.

[Shadower]

Plenty of nut cases around these days.

[*saRah*]

about the whole towel issue and men throwing them around, i dont kinda agree with that, my brothers do throw their towels around but rest assured i find a whole heap only in their room, not around the house.

but wallah i have the most laziest, medalaleen (spoilt) bros in the universe. abt 20 minutes ago, my bro called me from da kitchen, and i had to stop what i was doing, i thought it was something important cos he had like an hurried voice, and he's like "sarah, put me coke'' wallahi the coke bottle was aprrox 30cm away from his monkey arms. cos im on my dads laptop and im sitting in the kitchen, i almost had a heart attack cos he just walked into the kitchen to put his cup in the sink. :eek: and i said, no way, can this be true, ur actually putting ur cup in the sink, so he gave me some fake jabs LOL u know those slow motion ones (literally slow mo) i thought i might share this story just to show how lazy boys can be. not all off course...

some funny things bros can do:

*ring the house no. while they r in the toilet asking us to get them toilet paper.
*asking us if their clothes coordinate, or if they look good
*waking us up at 6AM asking us to make them weet bix with banana (thats annoying)
* asking us to look 4 their keys and/or shoes LOL

there is way more, but can't fit, however, even though it can get irritating, u still love em. sorry to go offtopic from ur husband wife thready, but it kinad all links :o

[*saRah*]

Actually I saw a post on a white supremist blog talking about this very thread on aussiemuslims. It went along the lines of "think islam is a religion of peace?" and then mentioned this thread "proving" that islam is all about women worshipping their husbands.

yeah, they wish they can get wives to treat them like the way we treat our husbands (dont get me wrong, many of them have lovely wives). wallah im not saying this out of pride, may Allah guide me if i am, but i find it so annoying that ppl get aggiated whilst knowing we look after our beloved husbands. if u ask me, ppl making ignorant comments like that is prolly out of jelousy, then again i don't know whats in their hearts. we worship one god alone, not husbands, islam is beautiful, thats why its a womens duty to treat her husband beautifully, for his wife he is a prince, and she's his princess. it cannot get anymore simple than that, if we treat each other nicely, it does not mean we r worshipping them, astakhfirallah

[Soul Sister]

The non Muslims think that if they mock our ways of doing things that the belittle us and our beliefs...truth be told they are afraid that maybe the way we do things is the better way we have a much lower divorce rate...we have a much higher level of respect amongst couples...and as much as they would like to play the women is her husbands slave they have it all wrong and as long as we as Muslims are content with the way we do things and Inshallah we do them to allahs likings then that is all that should matter

[Sammi]

LoL at Sarah...my husband does the same thing to me and his like 24 :rolleyes:

[chickenrice]

Re the towel thing. A towel is damp, if you don't hang it up to dry after using it and leave it on the floor or on furniture you're not taking care of it, your home or your body. I get annoyed about the towel thing cos I like to be clean (which is part of our deen anyway).

i laughed so much reading your posts saRah. my little bro has done the first thing on your list :hooray:


*ring the house no. while they r in the toilet asking us to get them toilet paper.

and he and my dad do the second one too - i love it, it shows they don't want to look unkempt. my hubby only asks me about his outfit sometimes - damn, he knows how to dress. once my parents were over and my mum said my hijab didn't match my suit - he agreed with her. i was like "who's side are you on?!:mad:" but they were right, so i changed.

*asking us if their clothes r coordinate, or if they look good



I reckon that those brothers who live as students for a few years and have to do everything else would probably be the best in terms of helping their wives out, because they know what it is like to have to do everything on their own.
yeah from teaching international students and from ibn farooq's post i'd say that was true. ibn farooq - you sound like a way cool brother. hope you get a wife who deserves you!

[Najah]

he's like "sarah, put me coke'' wallahi the coke bottle was aprrox 30cm away from his monkey arms

some funny things bros can do:

*ring the house no. while they r in the toilet asking us to get them toilet paper - lol, but of course needs to be done*asking us if their clothes r coordinate, or if they look good
*waking us up at 6AM asking us to make them weet bix with banana (thats annoying) - why cant they do it themselves? I'm sure your brothers are smart men that are capable of making their own breakfast* asking us to look 4 their keys and/or shoes LOL - if its helping cause they cant find them, then ok, but they haven't even looked then they can do it themselves.



I got a prob with brothers thinking we are there to do things for them just because they have mothers that do everything for them.

[ibnsomeone]

Case would that be the super dooper storm trooper website? :)



LOL

Yeah, they are just all a bunch or try-hards who don't belong, so they group together and pretend to be something. They think the colour of their skin makes them superior? Get back in the trailer, ge-heeeek.

[*saRah*]

loll i had a laugh with u girls. subhanallah sometimes they make me laugh so bad (my bros) and sometimes, yiiii i twitch cos i get annoyed. oh well i still luv em so so much.

sammi, u say ur husbands 24? my eldest bro is 24, and the second is 22. :o sometimes i get scared to walk into Abdul's room thinking i may never make it out alive :p

[Fatoum 7ees Beese]

i thought it was something important cos he had like an hurried voice, and he's like "sarah, put me coke'' wallahi the coke bottle was aprrox 30cm away from his monkey arms.

some funny things bros can do:

*ring the house no. while they r in the toilet asking us to get them toilet paper.
*asking us if their clothes coordinate, or if they look good
*waking us up at 6AM asking us to make them weet bix with banana (thats annoying)
* asking us to look 4 their keys and/or shoes LOL
:o

Sarah u made me laugh so hard that i think for a second my heart stopped tickin! yeta hamikk! they r so like my bros but the weet bix in the morning.. id kill em if they dared to wake me up!! they'd no not too.
u forgot to mention the ironing!! thats the only time they'r good in sukn up, husky even puts out the iron board for me. Oh how i hate ironing!

[Sammi]

6Am?? Back in the day when we first got married, Moe would want me o get up at 5am before he went to work and make food....alhamdullilah, he doesn't make that request anymore! He lets me sleep coz he knows I wake up 24 7 at night thanks to my lovely son lol

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

I don't know why ppl hate ironing.

I think it's fun ...

[S I M B A]

I don't know why ppl hate ironing.

I think it's fun ...

would u be my frind.:rolleyes:

[S I M B A]

in africa we think men are not good with keys,i have 4 frinds and thay all
ask thayr wifes for the keys.on the other hand women are soo good with
keys.

[Umm Jannah]

I don't know why ppl hate ironing.

I think it's fun ...

OMG, I have an obsession...I enjoy it heaps sis! :p

Fact: Ironing your clothes would kill the Bacteria on it!! :thumbsup:

[your sister]

OMG, I have an obsession...I enjoy it heaps sis! :p

Fact: Ironing your clothes would kill the Bacteria on it!! :thumbsup:

Fact: i hate ironing and most other house hold duties ( i dont get people who iron their sheets and pillow cases...whats that about!!:greasy: )

[Sammi]

Hhahaaha LoL Omaya, I literally lol'd. Thats funnyyyy so Barbie like lol

I'm shocking with keys, drives dh nuts. His like "wheres ur car keys?" and I;m like ummm searching the shelf, kitchen bench...
They're often found amongst Zaks toys, he has a habit of stealing keys lol:grin:

[S I M B A]

i take it back ! WE all bad with keys exept my wife :woohoo: mash allah
any time i say whear is the kys she say's chick your pockit,if thay are not
there chick the other pockit.%99.9 she is right.

[Umm Jannah]

Fact: i hate ironing and most other house hold duties ( i dont get people who iron their sheets and pillow cases...whats that about!!:greasy: )

Sleeping on un-ironed sheets and pillow cases? :shake:

Try ironing it once, how neat would it look? :rolleyes:

[~fLoSs~]

lol this thread is so cute. i only read the last page but im going to go through it from the start now

[RED ROSE]

and i am sure you'll like it;)