A General Warning/Advice.

[aussiemu]

assalamu alaikum,

This is a reminder/warning to everyone that the following will not be tolerated any further:

Rudeness in posts to other users.

However, if you think someone said something wrong to you
a) report it to the mods
b) try to think that maybe they didn't mean it in the way you have taken it and report it to the mods
c) maybe they are having a bad day so forgive them and report it to the mods
d) do not get into a slanging match with the person and report it to the mods.

Intentional fitnah causing to stir trouble with users i.e. namecalling, provocative posts and so forth and posting of topics for the sake of argumentation.

We are all meant to be mature adult Muslims here. We're not children. We're meant to be examples of what a Muslim is. Think about that before you post on a public forum. Every word we write here is either going to be a witness for us or against us.

The moderators and admins have lives (contrary to popular opinion). They cannot be on 24/7 checking every single post. So how about making your brothers and sisters lives a bit easier and not doing things that causes alot of headache and work for them?

Mind your manners when speaking to others. It doesn't matter if you agree with that person or not. It in no way justifies your attitude or lack of adaab when speaking to them. It doesn't matter if the discussion causes outrage in you. Keep quiet if you are angry. Report it to the mods if you feel it's inappropriate for the forum.

If a topic is being allowed to continue after being reported, it means the adminstrators feel that it is appropriate to be discussed so don't participate if you don't like it.

If a person asks a question - don't jump on them because YOU think it's silly or inappropriate etc. Don't make fun when giving an answer. That's not the way of bringing someone closer to the truth. You only cause them to be repelled. State the facts and the scholars opinion and leave any of your personal comments aside.

If people don't agree with you, you can't force your views on them. You've done your job by showing them what you feel is the truth. Leave it.

And lastly - realise this place consists of a variety of people with different backgrounds, thoughts, beliefs and ideas. That means there is going to be conflict and some topics are going to get heated. People will disagree. People will argue. That does NOT justify lack of adaab.

I'm really going to crack down on this because frankly I believe I've given people too many second chances on this topic to fix their behaviour. Sorry for the harshness but sometimes enough is enough.

jazakallah khair

may Allah guide us all to the good.

wassalamu alaikum