How do u tel ur frend nicely...

[greenlight]

ok, how do you tell some one nicely to stay a bit out of your face?

thats putting it a bit rudely but look, see, theres basically 2 ppl that call me everyday. sometimes 3 - 4 times a day.
and since one now got a mobile shes calling me on my mobile too. ive resorted to leaving it at home so i can just say when she asks why i didnt answer "oh i left it at home"

I mean i dont mind if people call once in a while. they're my friends, but seriously, if 2 ppl cal u 3-4 times a day that totals 6-8 calls a day and they wana speak for like an hour each time. it doesnt mean that coz they have nothing to that i dont either...

and whats even dumber is they'll always say before hanging up "call me sometime alright"
so i figure i'll call back in a day or 2.. then 4 hours later the phone rings "bro i was waiting on ur call"!!!


I mean seriously, how do u tell them nicely not to call every waking moment?

I even end up with like 8 misscalls on my phone... or 10 txt messages... dont they have things to do?!?!

[ZENA]

lol, thats funny. I think you should just be honest and tell them to stop calling so much because you are too busy. They may get a bit offended at the start but Inshallah they will get over it. Hurting their feelings a little bit is better than getting really annoyed every time they call.

[Al Baitel 'ateeq]

Assalaamu Alaikum

Just tell them that you're trying to cut back on talking on the mobile so much cause it's not good for your health. I don't know about you, but i seriously don't like spending any length of time on the phone cause my ear starts to hurt, so if that happens to you as well, tell them. I guess when they call, at the beginning you can say that you're busy and you can only chat for 5 mins etc. Only say those things if they ring true, cause it's best not to lie.

Sooner or later they may get the message and stop calling so much.

Alternatively, you can hook them up with someone who loves speaking on the phone as much as them.

[forbidden_fruit]

I even end up with like 8 misscalls on my phone... or 10 txt messages... dont they have things to do?!?!

Sounds like your friends are a bit obsessed..

[greenlight]

just after i posted this i went back to my room and unsurprisingly i had another 4 miscalls and 2 txt messages...
i just went to sleep. but now an hour later i got another message. i really cant be bothered replying or calling back. im sick of the phone and would welcome the thought of my mother confiscating it

[greenlight]

Alternatively, you can hook them up with someone who loves speaking on the phone as much as them.

maybe if they had internet they wouldnt bother me as much... lol.
hmmm, now i just haveta find somebody who like the phone...

I no! i no! see how its two people who always call me.. what if i gave them each others number!!!!

[forbidden_fruit]

Why don't you just turn off your phone! lol

[Tay_]

ok, how do you tell some one nicely to stay a bit out of your face?

I am usually upfront with people, so personally I would just say to the person to not call as often, but in a nice tone (if that makes sense)

[jah]

I cant help but be very, and I mean very upfront...if it was my friend calling that many times I'd probably be like "Oh my God, do you know how many times you have called me today?, give me a break woman!"

[*TaZzA*]

greenlight y dont u think positively about the whole thing,your friends like speaking to you which means u mean alot to them and u should try to appreciate that
maybe when they call they dnt get satisfied because u dnt talk for long and thats why they call again, so pik up and speak til like theres nothing much to say, then maybe they wont call back after a few hours
one of them is into her mobile now so just give her a chance and shell get over it i guess, remember ull never lose anything if ur nice
u said there ur "friends" so u need to handle them be patient and inshallah when u go back to school ull be spending all day together so theres no need to call (wait do u go to school)
my friends call and tell me to call them sometime but im busy they know that but i think they would still think i jst dnt want to call which is offensive to them (i hope they dnt think that), but nyway if my friends might feel that way and ive told them that im busy then how do u expect ur friends to feel???

[Soul Sister]

You wont trully appreciate how much friends mean to u until they are gone...and as a sensitive friend I would think that they might feel like u r just too good for them or as if u beleieve which u have mentioned that they have nothing better to do and assuming they dont so what u should be happy that u have friends that are willing to take so much time out for u....writing this message makes me want to make more of an effort and call my friends...or if u want to take the easy way out u can just tell them and have them upset wif u

[greenlight]

when they do call say the first time in the day i'll speak maybe an hour. but come on, we all know that 4 hours a day socializing is just wasting time. I don;t mind if they call once and talk for an hour... but you cant call three times and expect to talk an hour each time...

oh yeah, as for turning off my phone, well then they just use the house phone...

I think the one thing that came up most is be upfront so i may as well be.
and guys are better at this. for all i know the girls will end up thinking im trying to get rid of em permanently.

and to *TaZzA*, yes i do go to school. oh yay, it starts soon! not like i like school or anything, but it means doing things that are more constructive

[*TaZzA*]

soul sister may allah reward u great advice

[*TaZzA*]

when they do call say the first time in the day i'll speak maybe an hour. but come on, we all know that 4 hours a day socializing is just wasting time. I don;t mind if they call once and talk for an hour... but you cant call three times and expect to talk an hour each time...

oh yeah, as for turning off my phone, well then they just use the house phone...

I think the one thing that came up most is be upfront so i may as well be.
and guys are better at this. for all i know the girls will end up thinking im trying to get rid of em permanently.

and to *TaZzA*, yes i do go to school. oh yay, it starts soon! not like i like school or anything, but it means doing things that are more constructive

ur excited about school joking ur cool
have patience sis like srsly how r u going to be upfront about something like this what could u possibly say thats "nice"
and if u lose a friend by being upfront i guess ull feel regret so best solution... just chill out and be patient

[domaap]

ur excited about school joking ur cool

Im excited... that a problem? Im just so excited to see you TaZzA!!!

but seriously, you sound like you have the same problem I do. Now I dont top-up my one phone or anything lol.

but look, school starts soon so they cant call you that much anyway. and if you talk about everything at school then theres no need to call when they're at home. They probably just bored coz its school holidays and so on.

though if you feel like messing with their head then when they call scream AAAAH, stop calling me or Ill cal the police! AAH AAAh AAAH
then hang up.
They usually think they dialed the wrong number. if they dont have a sense of humour then dont try that though...

but yes, i agree that 4 hours socializing is a waste of time... i think we definitely have the same problem on our hands...
I feel your pain sister, I feel your pain

[Rubaiyat]

Switch network! That's what I did when I was getting a lot of calls during the "free call time" preriod. Calling to mobiles is expensive, so if there is no free time available to call you, they will only call when necessary. You can also switch to pre-paid and use the cheap excuse of, "I'm out of credit and broke to top it up"

[domaap]

Switch network!

I love your thinking...

but see, im on vodafone. i dont like telstra and optus doesnt give me the 3g services i want...
whats a good network? prepay, kid with lil income. 3g though (for the just in case i ever wanna use it lol)

[Rubaiyat]

Vodafone is excellent. I'll give you that and to be honest, I can't suggest anything better. I'm on Vodafone myself
You may try 3. I have heard that their network quality has improved. Before dumping 3, I vowed never to use their hell of a network.

What sort of 3g services do you use anyway? I got a 3G phone, but all I use is making calls and occational SMS (I'm not a SMS fan). So never really used the true 3G feature. I also don't like video calls. Once I got a wrong number video call while I was sleeping. Looking into the screen to 4 strangers trying to figure out who is this sleepy guy on their screen is a scary experience. Made me realise how a person can be caught off-guard when using video calls.

Anyway, to be on topic, I guess this "switch network" option depends on your desperation to get out of "free call time" abuse.

[domaap]

Vodafone is excellent.

Which is why i'd have a problem changing... you know i could just change my number... lol. kinda evil.

I also don't like video calls. Once I got a wrong number video call while I was sleeping. Looking into the screen to 4 strangers trying to figure out who is this sleepy guy on their screen is a scary experience.

Thankfully thats never happened. Only 2 people ever video call me. but some games are only 3g and vodafone really does give you the best range of games... and tv... hehe, you know theres some free channels and the rest are pay. pretty useful when your siblings are hogging the tv all day...
and email on my phone. thats a must. mines got a outlook kinda application.

to greenlight, you'll have homework when school starts. they cant bug you that much then...
lucky me my friends went on night talker... night time is when i do my homework.

If they still call you as much when school starts then just tell them you are busy, which you might be seeing as teachers like giving homework... they find some joy in it

[*TaZzA*]

Im excited... that a problem? Im just so excited to see you TaZzA!!!

but seriously, you sound like you have the same problem I do. Now I dont top-up my one phone or anything lol.

though if you feel like messing with their head then when they call scream AAAAH, stop calling me or Ill cal the police! AAH AAAh AAAH
then hang up.

but yes, i agree that 4 hours socializing is a waste of time... i think we definitely have the same problem on our hands...
I feel your pain sister, I feel your pain

domaap im excited to c u 2 (this is the rollingeyes emotion btw)
i dont want to go back to school cause theres still somethings i wanted to finish over the holidays because we wont have time during school, and im not too comfortable about new classmates new teachers new classroom new subjects
ur aah aah idea is evil i wouldnt be surprised if u actually do it