A warning

[aussiemu]

assalamu alaikum

I've been really sick the past few days and unable to moderate the forum. Br. Khaled was away at the moment as well I believe. So it seems to have become a perfect opportunity for people to start acting disgracefully to each other.

I'll just put a big warning that I am sick to death of argumentation and personal attacks. I will ban people who can't control themselves around other Muslims. And yes these people are Muslims even if you disagree on issues.

I suggest everyone do some reading on manners, on how to treat other Muslims, on the rights of other Muslims upon them and then read up on the matters of the tongue. That's for everyone - not just thinking 'Oh yeah that person really needs it'. Because quite a few people seem to think their behavior is acceptable but it's not.

If you wish to make a point against something that's fine but it has to be done in a good manner. The Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wassalam said "Whenever gentleness is added to something, it adorns it; and whenever it is withdrawn from something, it leaves it defective.''
[Muslim].

'Naseeha' is not naseeha when it consists of rudeness or sarcasm or putting someone down or name calling or labelling. You are not really trying to bring someone to the correct point of view then - you are only out to prove your point of view. That is useless - our point when disagreeing with someone is to bring their heart closer to what we perceive to be the truth not to drive them further away. If your advice was really advice it would be done in private as well.

When you have rude, snide, sarcastic comments made to each other I really wonder if people speak to each other like this in real life when someone says something they don't like or if they only do it online because it is so much easier to do it behind a screen. When you have brothers and sisters making personal put downs you wonder if they were in real life would they talk in this manner to each other?

Seriously I'm so tired of all of this. So many times I've thought of shutting down the forum and if it wasn't for the positive things from people who have met other Muslims and become friends, who used this as a platform to start knowing more practising Muslims and learning things and for those who don't have much contact with other Muslims to be able to speak with others I would have closed it because some of the behaviour just is disgusting. I feel really sad about it sometimes.

I sincerely advise everyone including myself to THINK before posting. Just ask yourself some questions

- Am I annoyed at this person right now? If yes - I should go away and cool down a bit before posting
- Am I using names or labels that won't be appreciated by the other person?
- Am I making a post that will bring that person closer to the truth or drive them away?
- Could I write this post in a nicer manner?

may Allah guide us all and forgive us for our sins and bind the hearts of the Muslims together.

wassalamu alaikum

[ammara]

im very sorry. i fell into shaytan's trap. i honestly did not mean anything bad from my initial post. i appreciate your words of wisdom and i will put it into practise in the future insha'Allah, whether on the forum or in real life. May Allah reward you for your efforts in running this forum.

[aussiemu]

jazakallah khair sis. It's ok It takes some time to get used to forums and how our written word can be perceived by people when there are no facial expressions or voices to go with it.

may Allah grant you and us benefit from this forum.

[aussiemu]

And before anyone says it yes I know we need more mods sometimes. I'll work that out when I have time insha'Allah.

[SuBMiSSioN]

Can anyone else see a Santa Clause in aussiemu's avatar? Or is it just me? lol

[Lena]

May Allah reward you aussiem for the work you do on this forum.

Sometimes we tend to forget how much effort Fatima has put into this forum to help the community.

[Taliban Princess]

Can anyone else see a Santa Clause in aussiemu's avatar? Or is it just me? lol

It's just you.

Three words: see a doctor.

[cheesegirl]

And before anyone says it yes I know we need more mods sometimes. I'll work that out when I have time insha'Allah.

I'm glad you got there before I had it bring it up.

I'm amazed that this forum runs on only two mods... poor things, must be a head ache...

[Tay_]

When you have rude, snide, sarcastic comments made to each other I really wonder if people speak to each other like this in real life when someone says something they don't like or if they only do it online because it is so much easier to do it behind a screen. When you have brothers and sisters making personal put downs you wonder if they were in real life would they talk in this manner to each other?

JazakAllah khayr, this is an important point. Not that the rest wasn't important, as usual your posts are of high quality. I didn't appreciate another member calling me a kafir yesterday, but khayr InshAllah, I have already forgiven them.

[masta307]

JazakAllah khayr, this is an important point. Not that the rest wasn't important, as usual your posts are of high quality. I didn't appreciate another member calling me a kafir yesterday, but khayr InshAllah, I have already forgiven them.

what a legend.

[black_blood]

I'm glad you got there before I had it bring it up.

I'm amazed that this forum runs on only two mods... poor things, must be a head ache...

yeh it is. i was a moniter for chatisklam its massive stress on particular days. may ALLAH reward you aussiemu for ur efforts.

'Naseeha' is not naseeha when it consists of rudeness or sarcasm or putting someone down or name calling or labelling.

May ALLAH protect me from this mistake.

SALAMZ

[Rachael]

I think that whenever we feel angry or in the 'fighting' mood we should think that this is a new opportunity to please God. Show him our strengths and faith in him. It should be a beautiful opportunity to shine.

Peace to you Aussiemu & NO i do not see Santa in her avatar LMAO.

[RED ROSE]

sister i hope you are feeling better now

[aussiemu]

Alhamdulillah much better now sis Just catching up on everything now. Jazakallah khair for your concern.

[RED ROSE]

no worries sis this my duty