I chose "no" - I wouldn't marry my cousins, they are all little kids, like nephews to me :P That doesn't mean I think it is wrong to marry cousins though, Allah all-knowing has permitted it so no one can say it is wrong.
Thread: Would you marry you're cousin?
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26-Nov-2008 08:47 PMVerily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction (13:28)
26-Nov-2008 09:16 PM
My eldest Sister married our cousin.
Three healthy boys as well
Two of them visiting us as I type this upMy twin boys were severely burnt in a garage fire.
Make du`aa that the one that survived recovers a complete recovery.
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26-Nov-2008 09:56 PM
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I like Islam_Junkie arent married to either my cousin but to someone from a different culture, but I dont find anything wrong with it and say a 'hypothetical' yes.
26-Nov-2008 10:49 PM
i voted YES I'm married to my cousin Mahsa'Allah and he was born here and raised here in Australia actually i didnt even know him until after engagement (i have seriously never seen him in my life until he came and asked for my hand) and thats when i realised his granny and my granny are sisters hehe
By the way, we have a little son Masha'Allah tabarakAllah who is sucha stud muffin Masha'Allah! Alhamdullilah healthy i dislike it when ppl say that marrying cousins has a risk of having unhealthy children, SubhanAllah, at the end of the day its all from Allah subhanahu wa ta3alah no matter what if your married to ur cousin or not, my mum married her 1st cousin my dad and her oldest daughter died at the age of 4 from spina bifida, but subhanALlah it had nothing 2 do with the fact she is married to her cousin, it was bcos my mum lacked folate...Alhamdullilah 4 everything, in the end everyone takes their naseebIf you make intense supplication and the timing of the answer is delayed, do not despair of it. His reply to you is gauranteed; but in the way He chooses, not the way you choose, and at the moment He desires, not the moment you desire.
26-Nov-2008 11:07 PM
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I don't disagree with marrying cousins at all, however one point that I would like to make is that when the linage has produced multiple relationships from the same genes and keeps being reproduced 'may cause' unwanted health issues. I have witnessed this here in Oz and it's still going on even though the males of one particular family for decades cannot produce unless IVF is involved or ultimately no offsping in the family - sad, but true."...The eyes are filled with tears and the heart is full of grief but we do not say anything except that which is pleasing to our lord.."
27-Nov-2008 08:34 AM
I read a hadith in a fatwa on this issue, its not the same as this but similar:
I read this at: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...=1119503544772
'The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) once told one of his Companions to choose a wife from a tribe different to his, and then to choose for his son a wife from a third tribe, and to seek for his second son a girl from yet another tribe.'
No one can say its unlawful.....but I would personally follow this opinion....my childrens choice is theirs to make.This doonya is nothing but deception, I ask Allah we are not among the decieved...amiiin
27-Nov-2008 08:53 AMHadith Rasool (SAW): "Allah (SWT) will have mercy on those who are merciful to others. If you treat dwellers of the earth kindly, then He who dwells in the heavens will treat you kindly."
27-Nov-2008 10:14 AM
I remember when I worked for a Lebanese guy, his father would come into the shop, and every time a person with the same surname (sometimes different surname) would come in he would say....
"Bta3rfo hayda meen?"
And his son would reply, "La' meenu?"
"hayda bee kun ibin 3ammak"
"KEEF EBEN 3AMMI?" in an agitated manner, cos he got over it lol
"Hayda bee kun mjawaz binto la ibn khalet 3ammak"
"HOW THE HELL IS HE MY COUSIN THEN?!?!?"
Ahh yes, those were the days!
27-Nov-2008 10:24 AM
lolll, thats so true. your cousins cousins become your cousins..typical lebss"And certainly we shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits , but give glad tidings to Al-Sabirun (the Patient)."
27-Nov-2008 12:08 PM
And I would not marry any other non-Muslim for that matter...--I want to stay in love with my sorrow--
Don't want to let it lay me down this time, drown my will to fly.
Here in the darkness I know myself.
Can't break free until I let it go...
27-Nov-2008 01:19 PM
I think some Muslims go to either extreme..they will either say you cant marry or they say you have to...I dont agree with either...i think you should marry a GOOD MUSLIM/MUSLIMAH and it does not matter if they are your cousin or not!
And about the genetic stuff I really dont know much but a sis i know works in this area said most of the patients are leb and pakistani.This doonya is nothing but deception, I ask Allah we are not among the decieved...amiiin
27-Nov-2008 01:22 PM
If I wasn't married and my cousins were all Muslim and had good character and Deen, then of course I would consider it, but they are all non-muslim, may Allah guide them, Aameen. (I still voted for cookies though coz I didnt know the 'Yes' option was a hyperthetical one...oh well!)
"Say what you wish in abuse of me, for my silence towards an idiot is indeed an answer. I am not at a loss for a response but rather, It does not befit the lion to answer dogs." -
Imam Shafi (rahimaullah)
27-Nov-2008 01:27 PM
No, I would never marry my cousin or anyone I percieve to be remotely related to me. I rather get married to a good Muslim who is from a completely different race and ethnicity to give my children the best genes. It has been scientifically proven that the more diversely mixed children are, the more likely that they will get the best features, genes etc from their parents and they are likely to be smarter and healthier in every way possible.
My sister is a doctor and she get LOADS of cases of children with immunity and other problems cause their parents are cousins. Cases range from a couple who's children are all born with a terminal disease and die in a few months to children who are born with birth defects to children who have terrible immune system problems to children who are mentally retarded to children who are slow in learning and even couples who cannot have children and the cause is because they are cousins and their parents were cousins and grandparents were cousins.. etc.I have submitted myself (as a Muslim) to the Lord of the 'Alamin (mankind, jinn and all that exists). [excerpt from V2:131]
27-Nov-2008 01:33 PM
I only have 2 male cousins that are muslim and they're below 12 years old. Another male cousin who is 25 is non muslim(fathers side). So I wouldnt marry my cousins.
In my culture, its not very common to marry cousins. Alhamdulillah our family is not stricltly culture based like many arabs are, and in my family a lot marry 'out' and I'm one of them Alhamdulillah. You never know who you will end up marrying. Allah is the best of planners.
27-Nov-2008 03:37 PM
point is, if your from mish mish and you marry from mish mish, you are cousins somehow lol...i dunno, my granny didnt marry her cousin, same as my other granny, ive got other cousins married to shias, and some married to italians, my uncles married to a syrian, and the list goes on...If you make intense supplication and the timing of the answer is delayed, do not despair of it. His reply to you is gauranteed; but in the way He chooses, not the way you choose, and at the moment He desires, not the moment you desire.
27-Nov-2008 03:56 PM
ok i just realised, its my grandfather and his grandmother that are bros and sisters not our grannies! lol my badIf you make intense supplication and the timing of the answer is delayed, do not despair of it. His reply to you is gauranteed; but in the way He chooses, not the way you choose, and at the moment He desires, not the moment you desire.
"Have they not travelled in the land so that they should have hearts with which to understand, or ears with which to hear? For surely it is not the eyes that are blind, but blind are the hearts which are in the breasts."
[al-Hajj, ayah 46]
27-Nov-2008 05:38 PM
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If I'm not mistaken, the genetic abnormalities that arise in offspring due to their parents being related is usually because of generations of inbreeding not usually one-off cases. But Allah knows best and its His Will if your child will develop a disorder or not.The Biggest Enemy of Islam is Ignorance.
The Prophet S.A.W said, "An intelligent person is one who is constantly thinking about and preparing for death."
27-Nov-2008 07:36 PM
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Wooow!!!to all of the responses..i thought everyone wud have answered no way! but ive been mistaken. Personally i would not, but Islam permits the marriage so in the end of the day only Allah knows who all of the singelettes will be married too. It is very common in my culture only because the mixed arab indos want to keep this arab blood flowing to their children and continue to the next generations. To the members who has married there cousins, were u forced into the relationship due to culture/parents or was it you're choice?